본 1. 진화론적심리학 (Evolutionary psychology) 의관점 1) 인간은왜혼외정사를하는가? 그리고남녀의차이는있는가? 론 242

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1 KISEP Original Articles J Korean Neuropsychiatr Assoc Vol 38, No 2 婚外情事 : 정신분석적, 그리고진화론적관점 * 이무석 ** InfidelityIts Psychoanalytic and Evolutionary Perspectives* Moo-Suk Lee, M.D., Ph.D.** 국문초록 중심단어 서 Presented at the 44th Annual Academic Congress of the Korean Neuropsychiatric Association, April 24th, 1998, Kyung-Ju Department of Psychiatry, Chonnam National University Medical School, Kwang-ju Corresponding author 론 241

2 본 1. 진화론적심리학 (Evolutionary psychology) 의관점 1) 인간은왜혼외정사를하는가? 그리고남녀의차이는있는가? 론 242

3 2) 혼외정사를부추기는사회적인자는무엇인가? 2. 정신분석학적관점 1) Lidido 승화의실패와혼외정사 243

4 2) 에디푸스컴플렉스와혼외정사 ( 남성의경우를중심으로 ) 244

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6 3. 남편의혼외정사는부인에게어떤영향을주는가 246

7 4. 정신건강을위한배우자의역할 5. 혼외정사를예방할길은없는가? 그리고치료적접근은? Fig. 1. 배우자는서로어떻게돕는가? 1) 예방적접근 247

8 2) 혼외정사를알게된배우자에대한치료적접근 참고문헌 1) Wright R(1994):Our cheating heart. Cited from Time (1994):Infidelity. August 15: ) Fisher H E(1981):Sexual choice. Belmont, CA, Wadsworth. Cited from Time (1994):Infidelity. August 15: ) Elbaum PL(1981):The dynamics, implications and treatment of extramarital sexual relationships for the family therapist. J Mar Fam Tger 7: ) Suharff DE(1978):Truth and consequences in sex and marital therapy;the revelation of secrets in the therapeutic setting. J Sex Marrital Ther 4: ) 민병근, 김헌수 (1997): 부부관계, 부부역동성및가정폭력이청소년비행에미치는영향. 신경정신의학 36(5): ) Burke R and Wair T(1982):The mental hygiene function in marriage-husband-wife helping relationships as moderators of experienced stress. Cited from Family Stress, Coping, and Social Support edited by Hamilton I. McCubbin, A. Elizabeth Cauble, Joan M. Patterson. Springfield, Charles C Thomas, pp ) Fisher H E(1992):Anatomy of Love;The Natural History of Monogamy, Adultary, and Divorce. New York, W. W. Norton & Comany, pp ) Kenrick D and Simpson JA(1996):Evoutionary social psychology, Cited from Time (1994):Infidelity. August 15: ) Francis JL(1977):Toward the management of heterosexual jealousy. J Marr Fam Couns 3: ) Freud S(1905):Three essays on the theory of sexuality. SE Ⅶ, pp ) Freud S(1923):The ego and the id. SE. ⅩⅨ, pp ) Freud S(1933):New Introductory Lectures on Psychoanalysis. SE. ⅩⅦ, pp128: ) 김동규 (1994):Freud의 Libido의발달과정과성격형성론. 서울, 교육과학사, pp ) 이무석 (1995): 정신분석의이해. 광주, 전남의대출판부, pp ) Freud S(1910):A special type of choice of object made by men(contribution to the psychology of love 1). SE. 11, pp ) 김종주 (1994): 사랑경쟁력. 서울, 도서출판민, pp ) Rank O(1975):The Don Juan Legen. Trans and Ed. by D.G. Winter. Princeton Univ. Press. 18) 이근후외 (1988): 최신정신의학. 서울, 하나의학사, pp556 19) Carnes P(1992):Out of the shadows. Understanding sexual addiction. second edition. Mineapolis, Hazelden, 248

9 pp ) Freus S(1912):On the universal tendency to debasement in the sphere of love(contribution to the psychology of love Ⅱ). SE. 11, pp ) Nesse Rl and William GC(1995):Evoution and Healing;The New Science of Dawinism. Bitterworth- Heinrmann. 22) Spanier GB, Margolis RL(1983):Marital separation and extramarital behavior. J Sex Res 19: ) Thompson AP(1984):Extramarital sexual crisis: Common themes and therapy implication. Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy 10(4): ) Whitehurst RN(1969):Extramarital sex:alienation and extension of normal behavior. In G Neubeck(ed), Extramarital Relations. Englewood Cliffs, NJ. Prentice- Hall. Cited from Time (1994):Infidelity. August 15:32-40 ABSTRACT J Korean Neuropsychiatr Assoc Vol 38, No 2, March 1999 InfidelityIts Psychoanalytic and Evolutionary Parspectives Moo-Suk Lee, M.D., Ph.D. Department of Psychiatry, Chonnam National University Medical School, Kwang-ju Erich Fromm said, A man is fundamentally a lonely being, and he needs love to overcome the loneliness and the sense of emptiness.marriage offers a resting place for the lonely man or woman, and satisfies a variety of their needs. Marriage is an arrangement where two sexually mature human beings live together because they love each other. It is a loving relationship which is established between the mature man and woman, who have formed their own identities and could understand each other. Infidelity is a mental disorder, which destroys the marital relationship, as well as one s mental health. This paper investigates the causes of infidelity from the evolutionary and psychoanalytic perspectives. Evolutionary psychology explains infidelity as a natural phenominon. A man commits infidelity according to his instinct for spreading his genes as much as possible, while a woman behaves according to her gene s design to receive a more superior gene, in order to produce a more superior offspring. The psychoanalytic approach explains infidelity as a phenomenon which occurs when one s identity lacks an ability to sublimate libidoan unresolved Oedipus complex could also be the cause. The Maria-Prostitute complex and the Don Juan character are presented as examples to illustrate these theories. As for the sex addicts who often weren t loved in their infantile life, they commit infidelity compulsively by confusing the sexual act with mother-like caring. The psychology of a person who tries to enact the primal scene by engaging a sexual act with a prostitute is presented. Someone who is often affected by depression and helplessness due to harsh superego tries to heal themselves by sexual stimulation. Infidelitys s influence on the partner is exaggerated by the parther s inner coflict. In the end, methods to overcome infidelity are investigated. Human instincts are not at all moral. To realize this fact is the first step to maintain one s married life without any infidelity problems. KEY WORDSInfidelity Evoutionary psychology Psychoanalysis. 249

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